What does virginity mean to a queer person, who may never have vaginal intercourse in her/his/hir life? What of a lesbian who chooses to never engage in any sort of penetrative sex act her entire life, does she remain some sort of super, extra virgin? If a straight man receives a blowjob, he will in all likelihood still consider himself a virgin, but a gay man receiving a blowjob may have a more complicated understanding of what it means for his sex life. In many ways, our conception of “virginity” erases or invalidates queer sex.
Oppression is cooking being “women’s work,” while the overwhelming majority of top restaurant chefs are male.
Oppression is fashion being a “silly girl thing,” while the top earning designers and CEOs in fashion are male.
Oppression is reducing women to consumers profiting a male system, even in fields that we supposedly dominate.
[I have been working for a long time, quite happily too, but seeing the sparrow reminds me of priorities, and this is the kind of day that demands to be enjoyed. So I am going to stop writing now and take a walk. You should too.] It’s later than you think.
—Evan Mandery, from First Contact - Or, It’s Later Than You Think (Parrot Sketch Excluded)
People always find these profound meanings within lyrics and when they do I feel like an idiot. I mean, you’re talking to the girl who listened to a single song on repeat for a month before realizing the entire thing was written about cocaine.